She came with a hoodie covering her bowed head that day. She was very petite in stature and seemed to draw her own countenance within herself as she sat downcast in my office with tears streaming. She had been beaten down emotionally by an abusive and demeaning husband who had a girlfriend and told her she had to live with it.
She came defeated.
She came with no hope.
Her pain was palpable.
I was fairly new to coaching at that time and earnestly prayed for Holy Spirit’s help to reach this new client. Little did I know she was the beginning of Holy Spirit showing me what kind of coaching practice He was calling me to.
I prayed for Jesus to help me really “see” her. Not just the outward appearance of defeat, but to see her.
Let me see her heart Lord!
And when I looked there it was.
And something else…..I had to look close and with faith, but there it was; A diamond that was still buried in the rubble, but there it was none the less–An inner beauty and a love for God.
And in the months that followed in coaching her, I witnessed the Holy Spirit transform this buried treasure into a beautiful woman of God who allowed Him to set her free in a most profound way.
It was amazing to watch and to think I was so blessed as to get to watch Jesus open this young woman’s eyes to who she really was all along. This is what she wrote:
When I first walked into Dixie’s home, I was at one of the lowest points of my life. I was sad, confused, and hopeless. I felt like a complete failure in life. I had been medically discharged from the USAF after almost eight years of service and couldn’t find a job to support myself and my medical bills. I had also just discovered that my husband had been having an affair for about 6 months. He said he was in love with this other woman, but that he loved me too. So I was pretty much an emotional wreck with all the time in the world to sit and think about how my life was caving in on me. I couldn’t even remember the last time I laughed. I told Dixie I felt like I had nothing to offer anyone and Dixie told me she could help me discover God’s plan for my life. I really didn’t think I could handle sharing the negative pieces of my life with a stranger, but when I spoke with Dixie she was just so comforting. I felt like I was talking to my sister. There was a positive glow that radiated from her and I decided to give the coaching a chance. I’m certainly glad that I did! Early in the coaching I realized that Satan had been lying to me. He’d been keeping me trapped in my past and my negative mindset. The time I spent with Dixie allowed me to recognize my value and my worth as a child of God. I learned to surrender my hurts and mistaken thinking to God. I became aware that God loved me no matter what! I discovered that I had enormous strength through Him and started finding the passions in my life that I did!
She eventually left the area and moved away, and now has a beautiful little boy she delights in.
Years later after her stint with Life Coaching, I was in the area she lived and contacted her to meet for lunch. When I walked into the restaurant all I saw was a beautiful, light of a woman smiling ear to ear from one of the booths. She radiated Jesus! I didn’t recognize the transformation until she jumped up and ran over to give me a big bear hug.
Learning how to really see a person is a supernatural Jesus thing. He is the transformer. It is His eyes we ask for. In the natural we see the outside appearance of a person. But when we ask for His eyes, we see their heart.
People long to be seen. To feel worth it!
He will give us His eyes to really see to the heart of a person. There are so many crying out to really be seen; lost in the world of darkness and pain and feel there is no way out.
Jesus is pretty well-known for his miracles; for beautiful, unbelievable, mind altering, nature-defying acts, and for his teaching; those incredible, wild, heart-piercing words that have shaped our very lives.
Scriptures remind us that it was Jesus’ vision, His divine eyes, that made Him who He was then and who He is now.
As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, He saw two brothers, Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. Matthew 4:18
Do you think He really saw to their core and knew where He would take them?
Some men brought to him a paralyzed man, lying on a mat. When Jesus saw their faith, He said to the man, “Take heart, son; your sins are forgiven.” Matt: 9:2
What? What sins? How did He know?
When He saw the crowds, He had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Matthew 9:36
The so called unimportant people. How did He know they were harassed and helpless? He also knew they were hungry. Here come the loaves and fish to feed multitudes…..
When Jesus saw her, He called her forward and said to her, “Woman, you are set free from your infirmity.” Luke 13:12
When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, He was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. John 11:33
He saw their hearts. He felt what they felt!
Over and over again, Jesus shows us that what we see, is as important as what we say, or even, what we believe.
It’s a supernatural gift that God offers; a blessing of the spiritual eyes, to see what other people can’t see, or sad to say, refuse to see.
Too often, we become selective in our sight, and we miss so many opportunities to reflect His character, and in the process, we miss seeing countless people who cross our paths every day; those who spend most of their lives feeling invisible. Even when we meet with believers we many times don’t really see them.
Maybe we have grown hardened, and voluntarily choose to close our eyes, to those we find distasteful or inconvenient or messy. We don’t have time. Perhaps you should read my disclosure of my attitude with a homeless man. You will find it in the archives entitled, The Homeless Man and the Bottle of Tea.
But regardless of the reason, we need our vision restored.
If there’s a prayer the Church can pray today, that will bring revolution to the body of Christ, and life to the invisible people outside its doors, its: “Jesus, teach me how to see again.”