2 Steps to Ponder When Our “Picture” Cuts Us Off From Reality

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I have always created pictures in my mind of the outcomes I want to see that weren’t what was really happening.   I created pictures of my situations in life in my mind that were not reality and I lived that way off and on until only just recently.    I thought I had a handle on it, but still found residue of this ability I had so carefully constructed in so many areas.  

The mind is a powerful thing, and is the source of all our battles with the enemy.

How many of you know that God heals us and corrects us in layers?  

Like pealing an onion…one layer at a time.  We can’t handle it all at once.

 

1 Corinthians 13: in the message says:

12 We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

  I wrote about my ability to create my own reality in my first book,

51u5NRnNcGL “Climbing Out of the Box.”   (Which you can find on Amazon)  

It started when I was a victim of incest as a child and I learned to remove myself from what was happening and would create a happy and safe environment to dwell in that wasn’t reality.   I was forever being disappointed when my picture didn’t line up with what was really happening.   It was a way to cope.   As an adult it is an easy and tempting thing to slip back into and I have to be on my guard most of the time.   But I am a grown up now, not the child victim.  

 The problem comes when we convince ourselves that we need a certain outcome — and that it has to happen on our  timeline, in the way we’ve pictured it.

 sb_passiveagressive2When we try to control outcomes, and make them fit our pictures, we cut ourselves off from the loving protection of God  and let fear begin to rule our thoughts.

Fortunately, in any given moment you have a choice to change.

 

You can choose to reconnect with the reality of overcoming our circumstances instead of living in a false reality,  thus enabling the enemy to continue to cause us pain in lives.

 mind-clutterHere are some  steps to follow to remind yourself of your  powerful connection with Jesus so that you may begin to walk in the power to overcome that He has provided for you.

Step 1:

Be determined to see your circumstances with God’s eyes.  Ask Him for His eyes to see clearly…not what you have created for yourself to see. eye

What are you saying, out loud or to yourself, that’s disconnecting you from your power?  

thumb_colourbox1908348Identify your story. 

Once you’ve identified your real story, take a moment to get real about how it makes you feel. Recognize the way your words and beliefs block the manifestation of what you are praying about to begin to occur in your life..

What is the number one negative story that you have on repeat in your brain, and how does it make you feel?

Your honesty is what will open  the door for you to remember and accept the power of God to change your circumstances or enable you to accept the place you are at in this part of your season.

Once you’ve identified your story, immediately say out loud: “I am more than an conqueror in all of my circumstances”    You, my friend are a child of the King of Kings.

You have to let go of your fear.  1209389_575103479218871_301732771_n

 Step 2:

Turn it over to the Lord of your heart, Jesus,  and be patient.

Talk to Him with certainty and thank Him for giving you a clear picture of your life and a clear picture of what He wants to accomplish in you.  Be patient within His fruit of patience.

 Try not to control your picture, but let Him create a new picture for you.   Your sign from Him will be crystal clear if you’re going in the right direction.  He will show you His will for you right now.   And remember that if it’s not clear, it is time to trust Him and be patient and learn what waiting on Him really means.

 There may be some personal fears you need to clear up, or perhaps faith you need to strengthen, before you can get it.

 When you try to control an outcome or even a time frame, you cut off your ability to be patient for the outcomes and disconnect from all the infinite possibilities that could occur.

 potter-pottery-art-handicraft-indiaSurrender to the Lord  and remember that nothing can take away your true power that is yours in Christ and His love and peace within you.  Let Him mold you into who He has created you to become.

 What would happen if you chose to be thankful and content in the place you are in right now?   

 Or if you are in a really trying, and grief filled place right now, asking Him to strengthen and hold you up while you navigate the waters of pain?    He promises to surround you with Himself every minute of the day.   And nothing ever stays the same.   You can endure until change comes within His strength.

 But you have to invite this to happen..

 or you could ignore it….

or forget that it is yours….and walk in defeat and fear.

 

brokenchainsIt is all a choice on your part. 

 

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The Voice

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You’ve always been like this. 

You’ll always be like this.  Why try? 

No one changes, ever! 

You might as well scarf down that pizza.  Have you taken a look at your behind lately?  

Excuse me, but have you noticed that no one else has accomplished that?  What makes you think you can? 

Why do you even bother? 

You will never amount to anything and you will always be fat. 

You will always be poor.  What makes you think you can be a success at anything you do?  

Better go paint that ugly face and pretend you are pretty, because you are not. 

How many times have you stuck your foot in your mouth?  Just keep your mouth shut.  

You can’t go there.  You know that. 

You aren’t smart enough. 

Are you blind?   Do you always stumble over your own two feet?  

How many chins does that make for you now? You are just a moose.

Why don’t you slap a couple more burgers on those thighs?

 The Voice isn’t just a popular talent contest that is on television right now.   There is another voice we have all kind of put up with at different junctures of our journey in life.  Everyone has “The Voice”.  Psychologists have called it the internalized parent, or the inner critic. It is that record that plays in our heads telling us stuff that is not true, but because it is so familiar we believe what it is saying about ourselves.  We sometimes perceive The Voice as the enemy of our souls attempting to keep us from moving into the plans God has for us because we believe what “The Voice” is telling us.   It is interesting though, that our voices take on the familiar sound of our mothers, fathers, or authority figures

Remember the old picture of an angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other?Shoulder-Angel-and-Devil

As a parent it is a good thing to remember that your words to your children will take on The Voice as they grow older.    The power of life and death are in the tongue.  We can choose to speak life into our kids or death, knowing that what we are saying to them will shape their destiny of success or failure if they don’t discover how to shut it up.

One of the primary jobs of The Voice is to control our impulses but is not trustable most of the time, to say the least.   We want to do good but that persistent voice in our heads tells us it isn’t proper or acceptable, or that only smart people can succeed at that.   Unfortunately, The Voice’s primary function is to suppress behavior that could possibly lead to our success by creating fear of failure.  And with fear the enemy of our souls definitely has a party in our heads leading to the quick demise of our creative and trusting spirits.

My own personal “Voice” has the same tones, the same mocking sarcastic way of putting me down as my mother did.  I don’t blame my mom, for I have since realized that she was broken too, and to her knowledge was doing what she was taught to do, and she had her own voices.    And then I realized that the record playing in my head was fueled and used by satan, using my mom’s voice and old familiar record, to keep me at a place of defeat.

922705_559351900752675_116486065_n    Once we recognize this voice as not our friend, we can begin to tell it to shut up,  that it has no power over us anymore.  We can change!!   Sometimes it helps to write out what the Voice is saying to you and then counteract those negative words with truth from God’s word about you.   Oh, it will keep coming back for a while and yapping in your head, but the more you refuse to pay attention and agree with it the less power it has over you.

The hard part of this is that the Voice feels so much like you because you have been its old familiar friend for your whole life.  Releasing yourself from its grip takes time and patience with yourself.    You need to acknowledge The Voice for what it is.   Ask Jesus to make you aware of when The Voice is speaking.    You then begin to expose the lies The Voice is speaking and truth takes over.   Call them out for what they are; lies!! 

Remember the voice of Jesus always brings life and peace, not fear and dread, and He is not the author of confusion.

birdcage    You will notice that when you start to get rid of The Voice’s accusations against you, where you were feeling defeated and dead inside, hope starts to emerge.  Your energy will return and your passion for life.  You will be out of the cage and the only voice you will heed is the Voice of your loving God who says that with Him ALL things are possible!!!

 

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21

This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live. Deut. 30:19

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2