For 5 years I gathered up my 3 grandchildren and taught them about Jesus –every week. They were 4 and 6 years old when we began. Christopher was 6. He was such a sponge… soaking up all he could about Jesus, heaven, and living in the Kingdom here on earth. The letter is his proclamation to get baptized.
So, their Papa, me and their dads, baptized them in a Jacuzzi. They sang, “Let’s Go Down to the River”…..
As Chris grew physically, he grew spiritually as well. He was very deep and spent a lot of time studying and talking to God. I was privileged to live close by and got to be a part of all my grandchildren’s lives.
Chris and I have a bond. I was there when he, my first born grandson, was born. I remember driving to San Diego in the wee hours of the morning to get to the hospital to watch his birth…..the sun was rising and I looked up and God spoke to me. He said this child would be blessed and do great things, just as sunlight beamed down on my car, and I felt His presence and his peace.
Chris faced a life of trials that no young man should have to face, but he always kept his composure and his faith and had a perseverance to move forward….even when he was stuck in life he always found the courage to find a way out.
Then came the day he announced to his family that he had sought God for a long time on the course his life was to take, and he knew he was being called into joining the Marines. I wanted him to join anything BUT the Marines. His Mom and I cried. I knew he was going to be entering a time of endurance like never before. But he was adamant that was where he was to go. Fear and pride were mixed together watching him pursue this career.
So, I prayed…and prayed…and still praying. But not in fear. The Lord spoke to me as I was praying Psalm 91 over him. He said,
“You have been praying over my son since he was born, Dixie. Those prayers are still in effect, and I assigned more angels to Christopher 2 weeks ago. “
Stunned I said, “Wow, Lord, thank you! How many?”
He said, “Three for now. They are with him every minute. At night they are standing on either side of his bed, and one at his feet.”
“Before they call I will answer; while they are still speaking I will hear.” Is. 65:24
So, he left for boot camp 2 weeks ago with those angels. Of course, I am tempted to worry, and to fret, and to doubt. It’s hard to let the ones you love go and trust God is faithful to cover them, encourage them, and protect him.
“ Are not all angels ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation?” Heb. 1:14
But, you know what? That is what living in the Kingdom is all about. You have to be diligent. You have to stay close to Jesus, and you have to persevere.
And you learn how to let go.
Faith is NOT feelings. Think about that.
Your feelings may betray you, but never allow them to rob you of what is more real than your feelings….your faith.
I wrote Chris a letter before he left reminding him that the very same power that raised Jesus from the dead, dwells in him. And that power is there to call on when he has reached the end of his own strength. He smiled when he read it and said,
“I know, Nana.”
Are you praying and believing for someone you love very much. Remember, we worry about things that we can’t control. To walk free of anxiety and fear, we have to lean into Him.
For He is speaking all the time. He promises to NEVER, EVER leave you no matter what.
And when there are trials and hardships, He is still there, in our suffering, making Himself known.
He says angels are there for us…”for those that are heirs of salvation”…
So, do you use them. Or, at least have an awareness, that they are assigned to you. Believing what you cannot see?
As my children and grands grew, Psalm 91 was my go to whenever I feared for them or worried about them. As soon as I prayed that Psalm, I felt his peace and reassurance that His word does not return to him without accomplishing what He wants and offers us.
Now, my daughter, Christopher’s mom, will not close her eyes at night without praying that word over herself and her loved ones.
He is our peace.
When my father, on his death bed, told me he couldn’t forgive ME for exposing him for molesting me and my daughter, I was stunned. This didn’t fit my picture of him repenting before his death and telling me he loved me and was sorry for what he did to us. No, instead, he blamed me for telling ‘our’ secret and exposing him for who he really was. I was alone in the room with him, speechless. At that moment I felt the overwhelming presence of Jesus, sitting in the chair with me. I, seriously, felt him lean over and whisper in my ear, (I actually felt his breath on my ear), and he said,
“Dixie, you are not alone, I am right here. I will never leave you.”
And I had such a sense of peace. As shocked as I was at my father’s sense of entitlement, narcissism, and unrepentant heart, on his death bed, to actually still be blaming me for his crime that changed me and Heather forever… I felt removed emotionally…. and the presence of Jesus was so tangent that I walked out of the hospital room that day with a smile on my face. Those were the last words with my father before he died. But the presence of Jesus enabled me to totally let him go.
“ Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy; no shadow of shame will darken their faces.” Ps. 34:5
In all of our turbulent lives He promises to be there and there is no limit to His presence…you can be mindful of it every day and press in and live in the supernatural…or you can choose to ignore it. But if you ignore it you will be missing out on the abundant life He offers….
I thank you that because I dwell in the shelter of You, Most High God I will find rest in the shadow of You, my Almighty. This I declare about You Lord: You alone are my refuge, my place of safety; You are my God, and I trust You alone, For You will rescue me from every trap and protect me from deadly disease. You will cover me with Your feathers. You will shelter me with Your wings. Your faithful promises are my armor and protection. I will not be afraid of the terrors of the night, nor the arrow that flies in the day. I will not dread the disease that stalks in darkness, nor the disaster that strikes at midday. Though a thousand fall at my side, though ten thousand may be dying around me, these evils will not touch me. I will open my eyes, and see how the wicked are punished.
Lord, I will make You my refuge, and I will make You, Most High, my shelter, no evil will conquer me; no plague will come near my home. Thank you for ordering Your angels to protect me wherever I go. They will hold me up with their hands so I won’t even hurt my foot on a stone. I will trample upon lions and cobras; I will crush fierce lions and serpents under my feet!
Lord You have said You will rescue those who love You and You will protect those who trust in Your name. When I call on You, You will answer; You will be with me in trouble. You will rescue and honor me and You will reward me with a long life and give me Your salvation.” Amen!
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I remind myself today that Satan uses smoke screens to divert our attention onto him and his fear, rather than God.
The world is a crazy place. Romans says: “For we know that all of creation is groaning with birth pains right up to the present time.”
So, in reality, the Lord has told us these thing would be happening more and more until He actually comes back for us, right?
So, how do we maintain our peace in the midst of the madness…the wars and hate, the crazy weather patterns, the sheer unrest in our leaders, the lies, the uncertainities?
I will say it again. We have an enemy.
He is not happy when we are involved in changing lives for the Kingdom of God. He is hoping we will forget and succumb to him, but we know that:
“Greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world.”
Satan roams around like a lion “seeking whom he may devour”…..notice it says “seeking”……..not all of us have our heads in the sand. We have to be on our guard and walking in the presence of Jesus and not allow ourselves to be distracted by the noise of the enemy, and believe me he will make a lot of noise. But Jesus is the actual Lion of Judah!!
I have realized it is going to take a supernatural life to be able to withstand evil attacks in these coming days.
It is time folks, to determine that whatever else our goals and hopes are for this year we need to be seeking the strengthening of our souls. Remember,
we are a spirit, (the part that is born again with the receiving of Jesus as Lord of our life),
we have a soul, (which is our mind, will, and emotions,)
and we live in a body.
The bible talks about the renewing of our soul daily. Not our spirits. They are already born again and saved for eternity.
Our SOULS…..our minds!!
They have to be renewed daily to what God says about us and so that we can recognize what the enemy says about us. This is why the bible teaches us that we are not fighting against flesh and blood, but against principalities and darkness and everything that exalts itself over and against our God.
So, how do I fight my wars?
Yesterday, I went for a walk with Jesus, by the ocean, that included a path through the mountains.
It was a glorious day of sunshine and I was totally focusing on Jesus and seeking His strength in the trials I am facing right now.
There is some things that seem impossible in the natural; things happening in my life right now, and I could feel the struggle within my soul of good over evil.
Fear was hovering off to my side just waiting to grab hold of my thought life. I could feel its insidious force trying to penetrate. I kept my course. I started praying every scripture I could think of. When I ran out of things to say I repeated the name of Jesus over and over.
I looked up and there on the mountainside was this hideous rock formation that resembled the face of a demon with a fish body.
It seemed to be mocking me. For a moment my environment seemed dark. I looked through the forest off to my side and it was dark. And then I looked again and there were all these streams of bright light penetrating the darkness. Out of my mouth I began to sing, out of
“Unto thee, O Lord, do I lift up my soul
Unto thee, O Lord, do I lift up my soul
O my God, I trust in thee:
Let me not be ashamed,
Let not mine enemies triumph over me.”
I sang it over and over until I felt the temptation to fear leave me. Throughout the rest of the day I continued to hear evil reports but I maintained my thoughts on the possibilities of Jesus and what He so wants to accomplish in my life.
There are so many tools he gives us to fight this good fight of faith and to keep our shields up to ward off the fiery darts that satan aims at us.
Pray the word. Put your name right in there as you pray. Or pray the word over your family or others you may be called to pray for until you see God’s intervention. Faith comes by hearing yourself speak truth!! An example: Psalms 91:1&2 Amp:
Lord, I thank you that because I dwell in the secret place of You, oh most high, I shall remain stable and fixed under the shadow of You, my Almighty God, whose power NO foe can withstand…………..”
Sing the word of God. I love singing my prayers. It slows down my mind. And many times, in the Spirit, I have heard Him singing back to me in my own voice in answer to my song. It is really beautiful.
Let the Holy Spirit pray through you. Just go with it and His leading in however He shows you to pray.
The Name of Jesus…..When the heat is turned up and I just can’t seem to pray anything, I just say the name of Jesus over and over. In Acts it says that there is no other name as powerful as the name of Jesus, and at the mention of that name every knee has to bow in both heaven and earth. So the way I see it, even if you can’t do anything else when you just say His name He is right there fighting for you.
The real secret to really dwelling in His presence is pretty simple.
Be intimate with Him.
Sit with Him.
Journal to Him.
Have coffee with Him.
Get to know Him. Let Him speak to you and step out in faith and believe that it is Him. In that way, you learn to recognize His voice over the voice of satan.
Remember it is His sheep that hear His voice and the voice of a stranger they will not follow.
Stay vigilant my friends!! We win!!
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Having no boundaries in your personal life will strain personal relationships and the accumulation of frustration and miscommunication as a result of no boundaries will ultimately create resentment that will lead you into very toxic relationships.
No boundaries can also keep you in that victim mentality.
Here’s the truth – if you don’t create clear boundaries for yourself in all of your relationships, you can’t expect the people in your life to know what you want or don’t want. Healthy boundaries allow for an equal partnership where both the power and responsibilities are shared. Especially in marriages, but this mindset will affect everything you do, from friends, to work, to church, to children.
Boundaries help us define who we are and provides us with a definite sense of self. People who learn how to set personal boundaries thrive because they have created a level of personal control within their life, whereas people who do not set personal boundaries tend to be stressed and overwhelmed with too much to do and not enough time to do the things they want.
Most people have a hard time saying the word NO.
Inevitably, until we set personal boundaries and learn to say no, the quality of our lives will suffer in so many ways.
When we learn to say “No” more often, or just learn to say “Yes” on our terms, we free ourselves from the burden of pleasing others therefore allowing ourselves more time and freedom to do what we feel matters most .
Your adult children ask you for money and you go ahead and give it them against your better judgment even though they don’t take responsibility for their own budgeting.
Your coworkers delegate tasks to you that they should be doing, but you do the extra work because you want to please them and be liked.
Your husband tells you that it’s your fault he lost his temper and was abusive and you take on the guilt for his choices and actions.
Someone from your church asks you to volunteer for a new project, and out of guilt you say “yes” when you really should say “no” because your schedule is already overloaded and you are exhausted.
All of these scenarios reflect a lack of boundaries – limits that can help you avoid unnecessary stress and enjoy the peace God wants you to experience.
You may tend to respond to other people’s needs at the expense of your own and then suffer from the chaos that comes from a life without proper boundaries. I see it often in coaching.
Do you want some ideas on how to start setting boundaries in your life and start enjoying peace?
Shift your focus from your circumstances to how you respond to those circumstances.
God will empower you to change your life for the better if you change the way you respond to your circumstances. While you often can’t control your circumstances, you can always control how you respond to those circumstances as you surrender them to God and follow the Holy Spirit’s guidance to set the appropriate boundaries. Doing so will honor both God and you, because it will please God to see you living with the respect He intends for you.
Keep in mind that taking control isn’t the same as being controlling.
Setting boundaries isn’t about trying to control other people; instead, it’s about being clear about what you will and will not accept in your life in order to claim your God-given spiritual authority and guard your heart from harm. You never need to feel guilty about setting boundaries with the people in your life. Jesus did it all the time. He had very strong boundaries. No one deterred Him from His mission. People will actually have more respect for you when you are strong and firm in your boundaries.
Distinguish between helping and enabling others.
Consider whether or not you’re actually helping the people you’re trying to help. Helping is doing things for people that they are not capable of doing for themselves.
But Enabling leads people to depend on you in unhealthy ways – AND is doing things for people that they could and should be doing themselves.
Recognize that when you’re enabling people rather than helping them, you’re creating an atmosphere in which others can comfortably continue their unacceptable behavior. Even though you intend to help, if you’re enabling you’re actually hurting other people, and yourself, in the process. You enable them to not take responsibility for their own lives. Thus draining yourself.
Recognize that setting boundaries is vital in order to fulfill God’s purposes for your life. Instead of letting other people distract you from living the life God intends for you, claim the spiritual authority God has given you by setting the boundaries He leads you to set in your life.
Pray for the confidence you need to overcome whatever fears have been holding you back from setting proper boundaries in your life.
The more you learn how to apply biblical wisdom to your life, the better you’ll be able to set boundaries that will help you accomplish God’s will.
Stop your own negative behavior.
Ask God to help you identify specific negative attitudes and behaviors in your life that are contributing to a lack of boundaries and the resulting stress. Then decide to stop your destructive patterns and pray for power from the Holy Spirit each day to replace your unhealthy attitudes and behaviors with healthy ones.
Don’t waste time or energy anymore on trying to get the other people in your life to change; that will never work. Instead, focus on simply changing yourself, with God’s help. You will never get someone else to change their behavior. You have to change.
YOU are NOT the savior of anyone. Jesus is!!
Seek the support and encouragement of some caring Christians whom you can trust to help you on your journey to set proper boundaries in your life. Or get yourself a Life Coach to walk the journey with you a while to show you how. (Contact me if interested!)
Nip excuses in the bud.
Don’t tolerate any more excuses from either yourself (about why you’re not setting boundaries in your life) or other people (about why they want to step over boundaries that you’ve set for them).
Ask God to help you stand firm so you can make real and lasting changes in your life. Say “no” clearly and without guilt whenever you sense that you should say “no.” Doing so will give you the freedom to say “yes” to activities that the Holy Spirit convicts you to pursue.
You will feel so empowered!!
Trust the voice of the Spirit.Pay attention to how the Holy Spirit speaks to you about boundaries. Listen for the Spirit’s guidance about boundaries every day in prayer, and be sensitive to the Spirit’s promptings in every situation you encounter. In some situations, the Spirit will restrain you from taking action, and in others, the Spirit will urge you to take action move forward.
Yield everything to God. Live to please God alone, and don’t worry about pleasing other people. Let go of everything that holds you back from fulfilling God’s purposes for you, including: unrealistic expectations, negative emotions, and Satan’s lies. Trust God to give you peace and guidance to change your life forever!!
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